Emotional Freedom

🚨 The Big Lie that kept me trapped…

That fear comes from something outside of me!

I used to play the game of life "outside in,” wondering why it felt so challenging. Then I learned life can be played "inside out,” and everything became clearer, simpler, and easier.

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❓What Do I Mean?

Our logical mind is a master at rationalizing our emotions. If I have a core fear of rejection and perceive someone has rejected me, I blame them for making me feel rejected.

This sounds reasonable but is actually false.

Emotions are internal. There are no feelings floating around in the external world waiting to jump on me. All emotions are generated internally by each of us. So, what’s the significance?

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🔑 The Key Insight:

My emotions are entirely my responsibility. No one can affect me emotionally without my permission. Yes, this can be challenging to accept!

When I first learned this, I pushed back and said, "Hold on! Are you saying that if someone insults me and I feel angry, it's my responsibility?” The answer is yes. The emotional response is not my fault, but it is my responsibility.

If I feel angry, it might be due to unresolved trauma, believing the other person’s perspective, or an internal interpretation that holds a deeper meaning that generates anger as a defense mechanism.

For example, if a stranger insults me, it’s less likely to provoke a strong emotional response than if someone I love does the same. It’s not the event but how I interpret it that triggers my emotions.

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🌟 Taking Back My Power:

I’m not suggesting to passively accept insults. But I’ve learned that to reclaim my power, I must acknowledge and take responsibility for everything that happens WITHIN me.

Otherwise, I will forever be at the mercy of other people’s opinions and emotions. Our perceptions cause the emotions within us, which create our experience of reality.

“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” - Carl Jung

I'm not saying this is easy or comfortable, but it's where personal freedom is found.

Stay Courageous

Dean Arcan