Did You Choose Monogamy?

Most people say they want monogamy…

But according to research, 𝟳𝟬% 𝙤𝙛 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚'𝙨 𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨 𝙨𝙪𝙜𝙜𝙚𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙬𝙞𝙨𝙚.

It’s not just physical. Infidelity can be emotional, digital, energetic, or even psychological each creating its own kind of confusion and pain.

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🤐 𝗠𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘀 𝗻𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺

They haven’t:

• Defined it.
• Shared personal boundaries.
• Agreed on what would be considered betrayal.

It’s a taboo topic, kept in the shadows, even from ourselves.

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🤖 𝗪𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗻𝗼𝗴𝗮𝗺𝘆

Most of us fall into it by default, not from self-awareness, but from conditioning.

We’re social creatures wired for connection. Attraction, emotional bonds, and curiosity about others are natural parts of being human.

Suppressing that truth doesn’t protect us. It just disconnects us from ourselves.

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😬 𝗠𝗼𝗻𝗼𝗴𝗮𝗺𝘆 𝗮𝘀 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗮𝗿𝗺𝗼𝗿

Many people unconsciously use monogamy as a form of emotional protection, believing it will shield them from jealousy, insecurity, fear, or loss of control.

But it doesn’t. Because nothing shields us from what we refuse to face within.

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💣 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗮 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗴𝗲𝘁𝘀 𝗰𝗿𝗼𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗱

Often, what hurts most isn’t the act, it’s the secrecy, the lying, the loss of trust. And no, infidelity doesn’t automatically mean someone stopped loving their partner.

Love and betrayal can (and often do) coexist in messy, human ways.

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🧩 𝗦𝗼 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗱𝗼 𝘄𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗽𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻?

We stop expecting one person to meet every need, all the time.
Mature relationships don’t just prioritize connection and trust. They also celebrate individuality and authenticity.

We begin having 𝗖𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗮𝗴𝗲𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 most people avoid. We normalize nuance, complexity, and uncomfortable truths.

We co-create a relationship that reflects who we really are, not who we’re supposed to be.

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🔑 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗮𝗰𝘆 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗴𝗶𝗻 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗿𝘂𝗹𝗲𝘀

It begins by asking:

👉𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙙𝙤 𝙄 𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙡𝙮 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙞𝙣 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙞𝙣 𝙛𝙧𝙚𝙚𝙙𝙤𝙢?

Without filtering through fear or what I think my partner will accept.

Because deep connection and authentic freedom aren’t opposites. They walk hand in hand, if you’re willing to do the work.

Whether you choose monogamy or another path, let it be a conscious choice. One rooted in honesty, not fear.

Stay Courageous

Dean Arcan